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How smart phones can erode self-confidence and thwart independence (and why you might be having a hard time intervening)

Posted by on Aug 22, 2018 in Helping Confidence Bloom, Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

How smart phones can erode self-confidence and thwart independence (and why you might be having a hard time intervening)

Soooo much fun! I’ve just downloaded the Best Wallpaper Ever. This free app turns my sleek and shiny smartphone into a miniature aquarium, complete with on/off bubble aerator, ten underwater scenes to choose from, and a selection of tropical fish that allows me to click not only which ones I want, but how many of each. It’s eye candy, especially on my extra-large screen; I’m pretty sure it’s better than the real thing. A beautiful, stress-relieving undersea scene, with me at all times – and, unlike our old clunky aquarium, doesn’t even need...

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“My daughter’s never been in class without her best friend!”

Posted by on Aug 9, 2018 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

“My daughter’s never been in class without her best friend!”

Crisis Alert! It’s pretty scary for girls to find out that their BFF isn’t in their class this year. Handling that crisis is the topic of the second of four Back to School posts. If that’s what’s happening in your house right now, this post is for you. Melissa and Avery Melissa slumped into the chair in my office with a soft thud. Her nine-year-old daughter Avery, she explained, was in the midst of a meltdown because she’d just learned that, for the first time ever, her best friend Lila would not be in her class at school. Avery was...

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“I don’t want to go to school, Mommy!” — Helping with Separation Anxiety

Posted by on Aug 1, 2018 in Helping Confidence Bloom, Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

“I don’t want to go to school, Mommy!” — Helping with Separation Anxiety

Separation Anxiety 2 Girls, 2 Stories, 2 Plans Sending your little girl off for the first day of preschool or kindergarten is not for the meek at heart! You’re not alone if you’ve been thinking about it for weeks and worrying about it when you’re meant to be sleeping. Even if your little one is feeling excited and confident, there’s still the issue of how you’re feeling! For many moms, it’s a big wrench. You’ll no longer control your daughter’s entire environment; the rhythm of your day is changed; your role feels…confusing; and it might be...

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Should I let my kids yell at Alexa?

Posted by on Aug 20, 2017 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

Should I let my kids yell at Alexa?

This great question came up in a Wildflowers moms group, and the more I have thought about it, the more I think the answer really does matter. Just last night, this was driven home to me once again. After a long day spent on a Project That Will Not End, my husband and I stopped into Krogers to pick up some groceries. As we approached the self-checkout, I was tired and admittedly a bit (…) irritable. Krogers has replaced their self-checkout machine script recently, and more than just one person (read: it’s not just me!) has commented that the...

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When an election triggers your past trauma and leaves your daughter struggling

Posted by on Nov 11, 2016 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

When an election triggers your past trauma and leaves your daughter struggling

My work is about empowering women to live into all of who they are – and to inspire this in their daughters. For me, it’s not about politics. It’s about individuals; it’s about nurturing the deeply precious gift of each of us. I believe that this is the hope for the world. This has been a painfully difficult week for many women. For women (perhaps for you, perhaps for a friend) who have experienced sexual assault, or who have been overpowered, whether emotionally or physically, the elevating of a man, to the highest office in the land, who...

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Try Saying Yes When Saying Yes Is Crazy

Posted by on Oct 31, 2016 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

Try Saying Yes When Saying Yes Is Crazy

Intuition will take you on the finest of adventures – even if you go along kicking and screaming. I think of this (the intuition part, not the flailing) as “following sparks of interest,” and there are lots of examples of this principle in action. Something is out there beckoning, you accept the invitation, and your life is suddenly and forever changed for the richer. This is peachy in theory. But the timing on these cosmic events borders on ridiculous. They don’t seem to waltz in during a lull when there’s the luxury of time to spare. (To be...

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Charmed by Love: The Passing of the Rod

Posted by on Sep 7, 2016 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

Small moments build joyful rebels I count myself very lucky to sometimes see a magic moment in a child’s life. Automatically, I begin to put that into words; to explain what had occurred – because magic doesn’t just happen. We can choose our actions to create the medium for these moments to happen for our children. This particular one happened during a vacation with my husband to the Outer Banks. On vacations, I’ve found, the serendipitous moments are often the memorable ones. Just like with parenting, it’s not just the planned adventures...

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Do put off until tomorrow —
Mom was wrong

Posted by on Apr 23, 2016 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

Do put off until tomorrow —Mom was wrong

Before I began this article, I thumbed through a whole stack of notes I’d made over the course of the year for future posts — and tossed them all aside with a sigh. Then I did a million other things. For about three weeks. Was that procrastination? I wouldn’t doubt that nine out of ten women, when they put a project aside, label themselves as procrastinators (which, as far as I know, has never made anyone move faster).  And, by the way, applying a label – a noun – is even more of a condemnation than using the verb. “I am a...

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In a crazy world, 6 essential ways to protect your child’s sense of safety

Posted by on Feb 23, 2015 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

In a crazy world, 6 essential ways to protect your child’s sense of safety

It’s Mimi Thursday. I’m about to pick up Poppet 1 — granddaughter Belle — for our weekly g’venture (I’ve never corrected that and never will). Diane Rehm’s voice reaches through the radio, and the talk is about ISIS. Gut-wrenching — and I think to myself, of course, that I will turn the radio off before Belle tumbles into the car. There’s so much I don’t want her to hear! But my reasons go beyond that, and it occurred to me to articulate why it is so powerful to protect...

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Three ways to build self-esteem in 90 seconds or less

Posted by on Nov 24, 2014 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

Three ways to build self-esteem in 90 seconds or less

A mom — almost by definition — is a woman in a time crunch : ). So if you’re thinking that with all the logistics you’re managing, there’s no time for an add-on strategy about building your daughter’s self-esteem, don’t worry.  You can make a difference in the way your daughter sees herself with a few well-placed words, spoken from the heart. Far from being one more task that there is no hope of completing, enhancing your children’s self-esteem can happen continuously just from your style of...

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