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The Zen of Play — why you really need to goof off

Posted by on Nov 14, 2014 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

The Zen of Play — why you really need to goof off

Most women seem to be traveling at the speed of light – almost literally flying from one thing to the next, in the midst of a continuous flow of international – no, interstellar – anxiety-inducing news. It doesn’t take a medical degree to estimate that we’d better discover a way to take a break from white knuckling it through the week. Totally unexpectedly, five-year-old Lia led me to a new way to take a breather. There’s something wondrous about providing your total focus to small children — creating a kind of Zen...

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The Flower Girl’s Rehearsal — the choreography of empathy

Posted by on Sep 4, 2014 in Sea Change Blog, your daughter's voice | 0 comments

Before there was even a date for our wedding, my daughter, who is a Planner, had purchased a whirling pink tulle dress and tiny flowered tiara – the perfect ensemble for granddaughter Belle, age four, our Flower Girl. So she was fully prepared when finally, after scores of options had been considered and tossed, the lovely little park on the bike path near Wildflower House, with its amphitheater surrounded on two sides by trees and a river, was deemed the perfect spot for the ceremony to take place, and invitations went out. For my part, I...

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How to Raise a Girl — The Morning Glory Experiments

Posted by on Jul 11, 2013 in Sea Change Blog, your daughter's voice | 0 comments

What do girls need in order to thrive – to grow into exactly who they’re meant to be? And if it’s different for every girl, then how do you figure out the requirements for your own daughter?   One long-ago wintry afternoon, the cover of a magazine left on the sofa caught my eye. In enticing contrast to the grayness outside, here was a photo of the most magnificent morning glories – along with the directions for creating an indoor window trellis, a veritable curtain of morning glories — right there in the middle of...

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“Slow down, daddy” — everyday moments teach girls to be assertive

Posted by on Jul 2, 2013 in Sea Change Blog, your daughter's voice | 0 comments

I am often asked, “How can I help my daughter to be more assertive?” One of the most powerful answers — something that you can put to work instantly — is already in your hands.   a Fourth of July Story Last year’s Fourth of July was my three-year-old granddaughter Belle’s first introduction to colors streaming across the sky and their powerful boom!   Although my daughter Kate willfully bypassed Girl Scouts, she is definitely aligned with the “Be prepared” motto.  Accordingly, the fireworks were...

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Tears and Joy

Posted by on Dec 24, 2012 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

Tears and Joy

This year’s holidays come in the wake of a tragedy that has painfully sharpened awareness of the vulnerability of innocents to violence to an overwhelming degree. When I found myself still reeling from the terrible news from Connecticut, a single song from a Christmas CD (“Thankful” by Josh Groban on the album “Noel”) helped me forgive my own powerlessness and provided me with a sense of renewed direction. (Please listen as you read on.) I have listened to this song again and again all week long.  I have listened again...

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Escape the Great Blame-the-Victim Hoax

Posted by on Jul 4, 2012 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

Escape the Great Blame-the-Victim Hoax

Walking to the back of my office today to grab a quick snack, I saw in my mind’s eye my previous client as she headed out the front door.  Thinking of her, I smiled, and a tiny light-bulb blinked on in my head. Often people feel that seeking help with their lives means that they are somehow less,when what it really signifies is their courage.  My clients are, truly without exception, wonderful, amazing people, and many of them have had in common one thing: Someone in their life has dealt them a heavy blow; someone has injured them, and...

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10 warning signs that you — or your teen — may be in an abusive relationship

Posted by on Mar 10, 2012 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

10 warning signs that you — or your teen — may be in an abusive relationship

I work every day with women whose self-esteem and whose very sense of competency has been eroded, day by day, over many years by remaining with an emotionally abusive partner.  “Little things” — like “gaslighting“, criticizing, controlling in subtle ways — are emotionally crippling.  Each day the self-worth of woman on the receiving end of this behavior disintegrates a little further, leaving her ever less capable of leaving.  And yet, when she talks about these experiences, she feels guilty, disloyal;...

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The Surprising Reason that Reassurance Can Be a Self-Esteem Killer

Posted by on Feb 15, 2012 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

The Surprising Reason that Reassurance Can Be a Self-Esteem Killer

What is it that helps people regain their balance when the mess of daily life knocks them down? It’s not reassurance that everything’s going to be all right. Actually, the most powerful stabilizing force is simple and difficult at the same time, and that’s being comfortable with your own feelings, no matter what they are. For example.  It’s 5:00, and the Arsenic Hour is in full swing. The baby’s crying, your kindergartner is racing across the house in her beloved, but muddy rubber frog boots, and dinner is...

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Join Me on Facebook and Get Your Copy of Getting Off the Self-Esteem Roller Coaster!

Posted by on Jan 27, 2012 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

Join Me on Facebook and Get Your Copy of Getting Off the Self-Esteem Roller Coaster!

I’m very excited to tell you that The Self Development Place is now active on Facebook! I’ll be sharing daily tips to inspire you to pursue your dreams, have great relationships, avoid depression, bounce back from frustration, — and hang in there until you succeed! You’ll also find strategies for working with gifted children and for supporting girls in creating dynamic lives for themselves! Now – a little about this special ebook — Getting Off the Self-Esteem Roller Coaster! Do you ever feel like your mood...

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Genius and Despair: how you or your gifted child may be like Rachmaninoff

Posted by on Jan 9, 2012 in Sea Change Blog | 0 comments

Genius and Despair: how you or your gifted child may be like Rachmaninoff

Discouraged?  Feeling like crumpling up your current project and pitching it?  Please read on. I was reading Jonathan D. Kramer’s program notes during a Cincinnati Symphony Orchestra concert that I recently attended and was astounded to read what the composer had to say about his own work: “I have just played over the first movement of my concerto, and only now has it become clear to me that the transition from the first theme to the second is not good and that in this form the first theme is no more than an introduction —...

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