Sea Change Blog

it’s not a holiday without you

A tiny story and a musical gift accompanied by the wish that you will create moments in this new year that will make your heart swell — * * * * * * Emotions swirl more wildly than snowflakes during the winter holidays; an abruptly developing storm is not so much a surprise as an expected part of the mix of the details and pressures of families, those unlikely collections of quirky individuals, getting together.  So when my daughter, in the midst of an undignified wrestling match with a dull, right-handed scissors (she’s a lefty) and a roll of flimsy (okay, cheap) wrapping paper...

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feelings need a soft place to land

feelings need a soft place to land

Our daughters learn very early whether it’s safe to expose their feelings to us.  Not just their sadness, fears and worries — but also their triumphs, because sharing one’s proud moments is actually the greater risk — I was working with a young couple awhile back.  Though much hurt had happened between them, their love for each other was very clear, reaching through their pain as they struggled to find their way back to it.  They had never learned to fully listen to each other and simply accept the experience of the other without judgment, leaving them both feeling...

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but why are you doing this?

No Lost Voices is so much a part of my heart that I was completely unprepared for the question. “Why are you doing this?” There was some skepticism, maybe a fear that I’d show up and deliver some kind of sales pitch. Well, I actually understood that when I thought about it later.  I’d just come from a presentation much like that.  The promised information was re-promised — for $3000.  If you purchased before leaving the room. But the idea that I could be perceived that way hadn’t really occurred to me as an issue. It was a good question, I decided.  Tough...

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seeking your passion — the new recipe for depression

November 11, 2009 It’s not like women don’t already have enough of a fight against feeling inadequate. Trying to be a 50’s mom with a new millennium career and manage a household flawlessly, often with no outside help — well, believing that this is possible is simply a delusion! At least for most of us. Okay — certainly for me. And now all of that is no longer enough. The bar has been raised. “Adequate” people are supposed to be able to point to something and say, “This is my passion” — and then build a life or a career around it....

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no lost voices — a personal dare

An unexpressed self is a buried spark that either smolders with rage or threatens to go out in despair.  Once liberated, it can light the world. The promise of that statement is the heart of No Lost Voices . The challenge: to deliver the message of No Lost Voices to 100 groups in 50 weeks, come rain, snow, sleet or stagefright. It is about reaching women – whether adults or teens — whose selves are buried and whose voices have been lost; it is about informing parents, mentors and people in positions of influence and authority so that this happens to fewer and fewer girls and women –...

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preamble to purpose

10/18/2009 Trying to capture in words what I understood in the car driving home in the dark — paradoxically, insight always dawns at night, it seems. I had turned on the radio and entered into a collage of Erich Kunzel’s life and work, a memorial. Kunzel, the conductor of the Cincinnati Pops, left this life just recently, conducting, in spite of cancer, almost to the end. Erich Kunzel: a life fully lived; his gift fully shared and not held back…. This thought immediately overshadowed by another — The brevity of life; what’s the point, I felt in that moment. The...

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