Sea Change Blog

Charmed by Love: The Passing of the Rod

Small moments build joyful rebels I count myself very lucky to sometimes see a magic moment in a child’s life. Automatically, I begin to put that into words; to explain what had occurred – because magic doesn’t just happen. We can choose our actions to create the medium for these moments to happen for our children. This particular one happened during a vacation with my husband to the Outer Banks. On vacations, I’ve found, the serendipitous moments are often the memorable ones. Just like with parenting, it’s not just the planned adventures that change the world for children. So often, it’s...

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Do put off until tomorrow —
Mom was wrong

Do put off until tomorrow —Mom was wrong

Before I began this article, I thumbed through a whole stack of notes I’d made over the course of the year for future posts — and tossed them all aside with a sigh. Then I did a million other things. For about three weeks. Was that procrastination? I wouldn’t doubt that nine out of ten women, when they put a project aside, label themselves as procrastinators (which, as far as I know, has never made anyone move faster).  And, by the way, applying a label – a noun – is even more of a condemnation than using the verb. “I am a procrastinator” can quickly become a permanent way of seeing...

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In a crazy world, 6 essential ways to protect your child’s sense of safety

In a crazy world, 6 essential ways to protect your child’s sense of safety

It’s Mimi Thursday. I’m about to pick up Poppet 1 — granddaughter Belle — for our weekly g’venture (I’ve never corrected that and never will). Diane Rehm’s voice reaches through the radio, and the talk is about ISIS. Gut-wrenching — and I think to myself, of course, that I will turn the radio off before Belle tumbles into the car. There’s so much I don’t want her to hear! But my reasons go beyond that, and it occurred to me to articulate why it is so powerful to protect children’s sense of safety — in a world where...

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Three ways to build self-esteem in 90 seconds or less

Three ways to build self-esteem in 90 seconds or less

A mom — almost by definition — is a woman in a time crunch : ). So if you’re thinking that with all the logistics you’re managing, there’s no time for an add-on strategy about building your daughter’s self-esteem, don’t worry.  You can make a difference in the way your daughter sees herself with a few well-placed words, spoken from the heart. Far from being one more task that there is no hope of completing, enhancing your children’s self-esteem can happen continuously just from your style of interacting with them. In other words, putting a...

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The Zen of Play — why you really need to goof off

The Zen of Play — why you really need to goof off

Most women seem to be traveling at the speed of light – almost literally flying from one thing to the next, in the midst of a continuous flow of international – no, interstellar – anxiety-inducing news. It doesn’t take a medical degree to estimate that we’d better discover a way to take a break from white knuckling it through the week. Totally unexpectedly, five-year-old Lia led me to a new way to take a breather. There’s something wondrous about providing your total focus to small children — creating a kind of Zen all its own. I love this, because it shapes a space for...

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The Flower Girl’s Rehearsal — the choreography of empathy

Before there was even a date for our wedding, my daughter, who is a Planner, had purchased a whirling pink tulle dress and tiny flowered tiara – the perfect ensemble for granddaughter Belle, age four, our Flower Girl. So she was fully prepared when finally, after scores of options had been considered and tossed, the lovely little park on the bike path near Wildflower House, with its amphitheater surrounded on two sides by trees and a river, was deemed the perfect spot for the ceremony to take place, and invitations went out. For my part, I disintegrate rapidly into disgraceful remarks when...

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